How would one get someone's attention on the city transit bus, or subway car for that matter? Opening statements such as "Hi there; check out my ride", or "the number five is a cool bus, isn't it" don't actually work. Plus, passengers are reluctant to make eye contact with any or all strangers on the bus, unless there is a platonic if not mutual level of attraction flowing between them (Is platonic the right word? Oh well, I'm using it). Disney movies and teen dramas market this "flowing" in each of their television shows and movie premieres; this author calls this Zac Efron Syndrome, which ironically doesn't exist ;)
There is always one girl wearing movie star glasses, who sits in the same spot on the same bus to work everyday, and all but refuses to acknowledge cheesy, silent, and subtle hand gestures or make eye contact. Indirectly, Movie Star Glasses Girl challenges strangers and the prospective lucky dude to utter a sound, and potentially face scorn and ridicule for doing so. Public speaking is the most feared of all social phobias: If the subject is important and there is a passion for transmitting ideas from one person to another, then there is an expectation to speak and communicate those ideas to another person.
In Britain, more than half of London's population met someone in the city's transit or "Tube" system. Also, for a significant percentage of Britons, those initial greetings with a random gent or lady turned into a meaningful, long-term relationship. When asked what was said, respondents in the British social survey said they made simple conversation by starting out by saying things like "Going my way?" There was nothing elaborate or romantic about the initial dialogue, just someone with confidence not being afraid of asking someone for help or starting a conversation about something else.
I'm sure Movie Star Glasses Girl receives the cheesiest pickup lines from all sorts of guys o_O She already knows she is "stinking attractive" because guys tell her goofy stuff like that all the time. Instead, start a conversation with her about something other than how she looks or what her ring size is; I'm sure Movie Star Glasses Girl would appreciate the fact someone she doesn't know values her opinion. Genuine statements of affection will come later, but for right now focus on treating Movie Star Glasses Girl like a real person first with a brain, and someone worth listening to ^_^
Before I forget, in case Movie Star Glasses Girl is reading this blog post, I hope you noticed me noticing you, and perhaps later we can talk about our opinions of other things we notice...like the taste of the coffee you are drinking, the lowlighting of coffee shops in the winter time, or how much we like The Nearly Deads and Charles and Alli Trippy (I thought I would slide in that #CTFxC reference ^_^ LOL)
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